Loraine channelPosted on 2019 November
Being direct will keep uncomfortable situations from becoming worse and prevent you from wasting your time or anyone else's, even if it may feel rude. If so, do they seem equally excited about talking to you? Per some of the of the comments above, I suspect that some of the diversity in responses derives from diversity in age and location--as a mid-twenties guy living in Boston meeting a random stranger off the Internet for coffee feels very normal, safe and non-committal. An individual had called me to set up a meeting, but I found the conversation so uncomfortable that I informed him it wasn't going to work out anymore.
If you said you would only accept a drink from the bartender, politely decline a drink that your date offers to bring to the table. Meeting up with someone you met online can be very exciting, and it can be easy to get carried away in the moment. It can be easy to get swept away by someone who seems like the one. First dates always require some extra preparation, and meeting with a stranger for the first time always requires some caution, and the online friend you are meeting is a stranger.