Honora channelPosted on 2020 January
To say that a guy must only ask a girl out when he is ready to court her is to put unbearable pressure on both of them. But if you if you surround that with a culture that places high demand on the execution of that and creates structures of accountability, reward for those that do it well, a sense of shame for those that don't do it well, it's not it's not just a sexual ethic — it's also the sort of environment around it. But I do remember thinking this: Who on earth lets a twenty-one-year-old write the book on dating and courtship? And often the very first things they say aren't the real issues. Why didn't you try to correct the problem for free?
We went to the same church, the same mid-week Bible study group. I think especially when it's someone you admired, that you learned from, that you looked up to, has such a dramatic shift away from faith, you kind of wonder about yourself. Abstinence author, challies, apologizes for the only way to. We hired her after meeting with her in person. And then if they do open up, it's really important to hear them out entirely without jumping in, without interrupting, without arguing.