Evangeline channelPosted on 2020 June
There's a word for girls and guys who are just curious: bi-curious. I hated the expectation that I had to fill a male role. Part of this comes from getting to know your partner and establishing a level of comfort with them, but it is also about being able to let them know what you need. Particularly, in this instance, because the pressure to be more inclusive falls to gay women far more than any other marginalized group. It is a form of sexual identification and gender, and for some, the term even falls into a larger social and political stance.
Not sure I would want a woman with a hairy chest. Like those who flee the tumults of city life for quieter and less complicated pastures, bisexual women may seem destined, in the eyes of gay women, to trade the grit and hardships of queer life for the suburbs of heteroville. Maybe going out there as a unicorn would help, but I've got the same anxiety about that. Remember, sex, gender, and sexuality are not one and the same.